Men's Ego & A Woman's Responsibility Towards It...

As a kid, I vividly remember running to my mom for every thing. From little bruises to big complaints about ill treatment. Everything which created a discomfort, pain and hurt my fragile heart. 

And my mother, like every other, was a place I found security and solace. Her hugs, kisses and her good night cuddles made me feel so secure, wanted and loved that I never had to worry about anything else.

And what adds beauty to any mother-son relationship is the grace with which she embraces him and protects him. Mothers... they know a thing or two about ego-  male ego. They stand behind, by and before their sons as a pillar of support, strength and shield... all in an effort to protect, care, nurture and safeguard that fragile thing called ego.

And when I say ego, I do not mean the chauvinistic one because is not what a mother cultivates. The chauvinistic one is born out of societal evils and devils which no mother approves or appreciates. I am speaking about an ego which builds a boy's thinking...which gives him assurance and a sense of belonging....which provides the impetus during his transformation from a boy to a man....which makes him realize, understand and feel his self worthiness by instilling confidence in him. 

Through out the life cycle of a guy....from the time of his birth till he perishes....he needs one woman to always take care of him without which, it is practically impossible for him to survive.

During childhood and until his marriage it is his mother and sisters.  After marriage, there is a transfer of responsibility to his wife. During the course of his adulthood she is THE trustee of that fragile ego. She is expected to be as careful as his mother in protecting him.... standing by him in his times of difficulty.....shielding him from any hurling....and be his pillar of strength and assurance.

A woman or wife who cannot do this risks jeopardizing her relationship. Because, nothing worse in a relationship than a wife who does not understand the importance of her guy's ego and how to take care of it.  I say this because, genetically men are coded to provide and women to takes care of the family. World might have changed....women might have equal rights and powers and all that, but the base of our existence is still the same. The true worth of a woman is not realized in her earning as much or more than her guy.  It is appreciated that few do, but that is not what maketh her. What maketh her is how she handles her father, husband and her sons. How she mothers all of them and how she protects them. Because without her, they are a no body ! Literally ! That is where her true power lies ! Not in leading an MNC or some other position of authority. Those designations are for the society to satiate their advertising needs.

A wife should understand how to stand by her man in times of crisis and in times of happiness. For, a man's ego can cripple or it can lose control and make him wild. It is only she who can anchor and control it.


As men grow very old... along with their wives....they depend on daughters to take care of them. So again, there is transfer of responsibility from the wife to her more energetic daughter.

If there is one person who keeps us going then it is the women in our lives. A woman who has had a successful marriage is one who has known a thing or two about this secret of managing and protecting the male ego.

At the end of the day, irrespective of what roles we play in our professional lives or in the society, we all come home to find peace with our better halves. We come home to look into each others eyes and without a moment of discomfort or displeasure or scars, make passionate love.... we come home to keep up our promises of being together through thick and thin and finding solace in each others arms....we come home to feel appreciated and respected.

If a man and woman cannot bring peace into each other's lives, then their togetherness is of little value !